So you want flirting tips and advice that actually work? Then congratulations. You’ve come to the right place!
Ok. First off don’t forget that there is not a strict flirting formula, and everybody is different. If you’re nervous then just remember… the other person probably has the same worries and insecurities as yourself! Flirting should be fun and just like everything else practice makes perfect.
So are you ready to do this? Take a deep breath! Now… are you relaxed? Are you in a positive state of mind? Yeah? Then you’re ready to learn how to FLIRT!!
Make eye contact
The first step is to make eye contact with the other person to see if they are potentially attracted to you. If the person meets your gaze for a period of time then they are most likely interested. The same can usually be said if the person meets your gaze, looks away, and then looks back at you.
A smile is a universal language of approval and/ or appreciation. Think about it – if somebody smiles at you then you are very likely to smile back. A smile coupled with good eye contact is a great sign that the other person would like to talk to you.
Find common ground. Then ask more questions which show you have been taking an active interest in what the other person has said. This shows respect and interest, and will also help the conversation to flow naturally, avoiding those horrible pauses and unnecessary silences as you desperately try to ‘find something to talk about’. Good examples would be asking about the other person’s interests, job, pets, family etc. The more interested you are in your potential new partner’s life, the better. But remember not to pry. No intimate personal questions – think about the sorts of questions you’d be comfortable to answer yourself.
Use the person’s name
When people use your name directly usually you feel valued and special. This is especially important if you have just met lots people at one time. We all know how great it feels to stand out from the crowd!
Read body language
Watch the other person’s reactions to both what you are saying and what you are doing. You can tell a lot from people’s eyes, mouth and skin tone. It is a proven fact that humans mimic, or copy, movements when there is a mutual attraction.
Tell the truth!
There is absolutely no point in trying to be something that you’re not. If you lie to try to make yourself sound more attractive to the opposite sex there is no doubt that you will get caught out down the line. Remember, with a bit of luck you are trying to begin a potential romance here, with all of the benefits of a loving and trusting relationship. Just think… how would you feel if you found out that your new partner had lied to you on your third date?! Ah, dating …
And in conclusion…
As a general rule don’t rush to judge the other person. And remember not to be too pushy or seem too keen, especially if you really like the other person. You don’t want them running a mile before you even get to know them!
Be playful, polite and confident.
And always, always, be yourself and have fun!!