Daily we meet a lot of people with different attitudes and personalities. It is a great feeling to talk to people with positive views in life. It inspires you to look on the best things that life can offer. You even end a day with a happy feeling, leaving a smile on your face. Likewise, being with happy people gives you a lot of laughter and lighter moments.
However, can you imagine spending a day with difficult people? Difficult people could be those who see all the negative things in you. They can be demanding and fault finders. Perhaps, they are also hard to please in spite of all your efforts. They can be irritating because of their bad habits and attitudes. The following are helpful ways in dealing these difficult people.
How To Deal With Difficult People
Do Not Listen To Their Negative Words
There are people who talk too much about complaints, criticisms, grievances and frustrations in life. Do not entertain all these negative thoughts and words when talking to difficult people. Otherwise, you will end up talking about all this nonsense as well. Divert the conversation and talk about pleasant topics and enjoy a more fruitful and productive talk. If you cannot direct the person to a good and positive conversation, just end it politely without offending the other person.
Look On Their Good Attitude And Personalities
Some difficult people have bad or sometimes traumatic experiences that they wanted to hide. Most likely, they could be a product of depression, rejection, loss of affection, and other failures in the past. Some difficult people are dealing with low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and a lot of fears. They are showing negative attitudes to hide all of these. They are showing people that they are strong, courageous, and cannot be fooled but sometimes they are the opposite of all these things.
However, we can still deal with difficult people positively. We just need to see and focus on the good side of these people. There is a need to understand their indifference, their situations and experiences. Remember, there is always something good in every person.
Commend And Speak About The Good Side Of The Person
Instead of focusing on the negative attitudes and habits of the person, let the person know and feel that you see the goodness inside of them. Commend and praise them for the good things they say or do. By doing this, you will also help them see their good personalities and characters that they might have overlooked. Remember, there are things in us that we learn through the feedback and compliments of other people.
Be A Good Influence!
As we understand that difficult people could be undergoing some difficult times in their lives, we should not avoid them. At the same time, we should not join them by being a difficult person ourselves. We should be a person of good influence in their lives. Our positive characters can be their best teacher. It could inspire them to bring out from within the real person of good character. And find out that they could be someone who is easy to deal with and can also be a good motivator to other difficult people.
Lastly, you could say that it is always better said than done. However, it always takes practice to perfect one.