Surviving Depression after Cheating in a Relationship

There is a saying “man is what he eats”. That may not be literally true but another saying, not so widely known, is very true: “We are what we feel”. Our innermost feelings and emotions define the way we perceive the world around us. This fact is very liberating. It means we have the power to influence the way our life will evolve. In the end our happiness and our mental well-being is in our hands.
Many people are not aware of this fact. They tend to go with the flow and accept what life gives them without questions. Some may even think they are not worthy of more than they get. You may have abusive or not-so-polite family members, co-workers or friends, or you may not have friends at all. You or someone you love may have a bad health. Someone you love may have died. You may be fed up with your work. You may have all sorts of issues, which make you feel uncomfortable about your life. But it does not have to be like that. You can enjoy your life to the fullest every day if you choose to do so. It is all in your own hands.
Think about your life at this very moment. Are you completely (or even close to) happy? Answering this question may not be as easy as it may seem. To get an answer, please answer honestly to these questions:
  • Do you have a general blue feeling?
  • Do you feel sad about something on a regular basis?
  • Do you feel you would like to change some fundamental part in your life, but have not done it yet because you are a) afraid you might be sorry afterward b) think you do not have the possibility to do it even if you wanted to (due to financial or other reasons)?
If you answered “yes” to one or more of the questions in the above list, your life is not at this moment the way it should be, whether you accept this fact or not. You may feel you want to hang on to your life as it is now, because you are afraid of the change. If you are in a bad relationship, you may have mixed feelings about your situation. You may want to leave, but on the other hand a mere thought of living apart from your partner is so painful that you are staying in your relationship even thought it is slowly eating you inside.
But your life does not have to go like that! You are a unique individual, there is no one like you on this Earth. You only have this one life. Do not waste it by being miserable! Continue reading and find out how you can beat the bad feelings before they turn you into a bitter human being for the rest of your life.

Do you feel the pain because of being in a bad relationship?

You may think your life will be even more miserable without your “not-so-ideal but anyhow beloved” spouse. But that is not true. What will happen is that you will be miserable for a while, but that is just a normal reaction of a human being to a change in one’s otherwise familiar life. You are also sad when someone close to you dies, but you always get over it with time. If something bad happens to you in your life, there will be pain. But the pain passes and after that your life will be more full of sunshine than you could ever imagine! Think of the pain you feel now as a necessary step which you have to take in order to get to that sunny place.
Now you may think “but what if I will never again find anyone who wants to be with me or who I can love?”. Yes, there is that danger. But even if that happens, would you rather choose to be in your bad relationship rather than to live alone, to be free and spend time with friends without having to feel bad because of something someone you are living with has again said or done to you? Do not be afraid to take that step, it is worth it, and so are you! Visit page Recovery after Cheating to read more about this topic.

The world without the loneliness

Do not be afraid of the loneliness if you decide to end your relationship. In today’s world we do not have to live alone and isolated if we do not choose to do so. We can meet other people very easily through internet, which literally connects people all around the world. When our generation will be in nursing homes, we will not be lonely old timers! We will have the means to connect to other old timers all around the world, chat, make friends, even fall in love… What a great evening of life we got ahead of us!
The best thing is that it can be like that for you now when the nursing home is nothing but a distant shadow in a horizon. You can connect with people all around the world, get new friends, even fall in love. Those days when internet dating and Friend Finder Services were thought to be mostly for “losers” who could not otherwise find friends or lovers are over. In today’s world people live busy life filled with work and studies and it is very common to use the internet as a tool to get to know new people and make new friends. Without making new friends, how can one ever find someone special and fall in love? We all want same things in life, to find our Significant Other and have friends. Internet makes this possible for all of us, for the busiest businessman as well as for the poorest cleaner.
Do you consider yourself as a “normal” person, whatever that may mean in your vocabulary? Those people who are using the internet to connect with other people are people just like you, no more strange or weird than the person who stares back at you from the mirror. So do not be afraid that you would be left alone for the rest of your life if you decide to move on from your current unsatisfying relationship. You will definitely meet new people! And even if you do not find True Love, you deserve so much more than to be treated badly or without the respect in your relationship. Love yourself enough to protect yourself!
Think of yourself as your own child: What would you like your child to do in a similar situation? Answer the question honestly and then do accordingly! How could you treat yourself worse than you would want your own child to be treated? Do not be afraid, you are not alone. You can break free, you are stronger than you think! Read more about this topic from page Recovery after Cheating.

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